Hi Hank, you're in a hard situation. Your significance of intimate closeness and connection aren't being met in your wedding. You’ve chatted together with your wife, provided her time, haven’t forced her, and absolutely nothing changed. Whenever you approach her she gets annoyed and protective and comes to an end the conversation. You state anything else in your relationship is great. It appears as if you nevertheless love her and they are searching for a option to stay static in the wedding to get your preferences came across. You state there is no infidelity for three decades, which means you are an honorable man who reaches a crossroads. Your frustration has led one to a desperate point where you are looking for a selection to be dishonest. Doing that may probably place you in a situation where you then become some one you're not. You may justify it because your spouse has shut you straight straight down. Yet you simply will not feel great you will likely emotionally pull away from your wife about yourself, likely bring on feelings of guilt and shame, and.